Will I have more or less time after I have the baby?
Currently I work 40 hour weeks at Wells Fargo, and I teach at least four group exercise classes weekly. My excuse for not cooking dinner every night, having a not-so-clean apartment, avoiding "projects" like sewing, and getting further and further behind on scrap booking is:
"I don't have time right now. After I have the baby and am home all day (at least for a little while), I'll have time to do that."
Moms, am I living in a fantasy world? I've gotta know. Because if life's going to get crazier, I'd better make Matt some nice meals now and digital scrapbook as if my life depends on it.
(P.S. Blogger isn't allowing me to upload pictures lately, so sorry we're going picture-less lately. More interesting posts are coming whenever I can get pictures on here.)
Thursday, April 16, 2009
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Haha you're funny. You have more time but then you don't because babies sleep a ton but you have to sleep when they sleep. But after the first month or so when you get a good routine down you'll have more time to do things. I'm excited for you.
I agree with Jamie, babies sleep a lot. So if you get things done while they're sleeping then you have lots of time. However when they are first born you are so tired yourself you need some sleep. As they get older they sleep less and that gives you less time to get things done. But I think that you will have more time after the baby comes especially if you have a good baby and before your baby is mobile it's probably a lot easier to get things done while they are awake too, I don't know though because Karlee can't crawl or anything yet. Anyway...thats just my two cents. Take it for what it is worth to you.
I think I have a skewed perception of what it's like to have a new baby because around the time Alec started being awake more during the day I was pregnant again (meaning I was sick or totally exhausted).
I don't know if you'll necessarily be less busy or more busy, just a different kind of busy... a busy that takes all of your emotional and mental energy. Once you recover from pregnancy you won't be physically tired, but I still found myself emotionally tired... but I still say don't plan on trying to keep a clean house and cook gourmet dinners for the first few months... or until your sweet little one knows how to entertain itself. :-)
Okay, my two cents are really long.... I'm so excited for you, Erin! Just a few more weeks until you find out if you're having a boy or girl, yes? I can't wait!
You will be sleeping with them until they start sleeping through the night. Then you can have the time when they're sleeping. Or if they will entertain themselves. I fix dinner but it's usually late because I can't usually get it fixed until Braden is in bed. But no worries...it is all way worth it! Being a mom is the BEST thing in the world!
Make no mistake: motherhood is all about sitting around, watching soaps (reading blogs), and eating chips. There is never any time to do anything else!
I totally thought and said the same thing. I told Mark about all of the home cooked meals and lunches I would make for him once I didn't have to work full-time and could be a stay at home mom, and how clean the house would be. I think that is why I was so suprised and mad the first few weeks because I felt like there was only ever enough time between feedings for me to pick one thing either: eating, or sleeping, or showering. All of which I felt I needed desperately and didn't know how to choose between. It took until about 1 month or some until I even felt like attempting to make dinner. I was starting to feel like I was getting the hang of things and how to manage cleaning or laundry around 1.5 months so lasted for about 2 weeks then I started working part-time from home and that's where all my free time went. So you'll have some, but it still isn't as much as I thought it would be, but I think it's because Teairsa's still little.
Don't make the mistake I did though and NOT go to sleep when the baby sleep those first few weeks. Everyone said to, and I totally thought I would, but then once I had her and she'd go to sleep I felt I had to do something and wouldn't sleep. It made everything a lot harder and poor Mark didn't know who he was living with anymore.
You just walk across the hall and knock on my door if you need a nap and need someone to listen for the baby and take him or her so you can sleep, okay?!!
Although I heartily second Rosie's assessment of motherhood, realize that wondering about 'time' is like wondering what you'd do with the money if you won the lottery.
You could have the Perfect Baby - the one who sleeps through the night from day one, never tantrums, and keeps to a schedule like Big Ben. And in that case, you might have more time.
Or you could have a precious bambino who wants to eat every hour, never sleep for more than 15 minutes, and suffers from colic. In that case, you'll have less time.
When you're in month #4 of realizing that it's 3pm and you have yet to change out of sweatpants or shower for the 3rd day in a row, just remember that 1) it does get better, and 2) your priorities change. Celebrate what you CAN get done, and don't worry about the rest. Welcome to The Mother-Hood.
Everybody said alot of the things I would tell you! So I would tell you get your scrapbooking done while you are pregnant so you are caught up before he or she comes because when they do you will have over load of pictures and will never get to them because you will be to busy and to tired to do it! I got caught up before he was born and haven't touched his stuff yet and he is turning 2 at the end of the month which now means I am 2 years behind! I recommend always taking naps when the baby does for the sake of everyone, don't know about you but I am much more crouchy when I don't get some rest! Good luck Erin you will be a great mommy! SO if you haven't figured out my advice by now I am telling you get it all done before the little one arrives they change your life!
You are busy! You will definitely have more time, I work from home and I manage to work anywhere from 4-8 hours a day even with my little girl. (oh and do housework) :)
If you are like me, you will have way less time once the baby arrives, because all you will manage to get done, besides the mandatory baby stuff, is to sit and hold your new baby all day long!
The other stuff doesn't really matter anyway. You are a mom now, and they will not grow up to remember the perfectly spotless house, or the gourmet meals you made on a daily basis. They will remember the time you spent together and the love they felt!
Just remember, sleep when they sleep and accept any help that is offered. You are going to do great! We are so excited for you!
Here are my two cents. At first it's hard to get a lot of things done - well with your body recovering and a new born that (well with me) I wasn't quite sure how to take care of. NOW! It's so easy to get things done, Addie is my little helper and we sew, craft and cook. Now that I think of it, I'm doing the cycle all over again. I better enjoy the free time now.
BUT- my final two cents - you'll have time... maybe not at first, but it'll come once you figure out your little cutie!
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